So what do you do instead?
Simple. "Act as if."
"Act as if" instructs your mind to look for the source of what you want inside of you. It assumes what you want is already there, you just have to find and develop it.
This sends your mind to very powerful questions...
What would I do?
What would I say?
How would I act?
How would I behave?
How would I dress?
How would I approach people?
It puts the power in you because it brings the action out of you, rather than looking for motivation outside of you.
All of a sudden your entire perspective changes.
Comparison is evil...
You've been told that you should be successful by a certain time.
...that you should be wealthy in 12 weeks...or skinnier in 3 weeks...
Your goal is a LIFELONG healthy lifestyle and YOUR life is different than Julie, Betty or whoever.
Everybody's body, mind and spirit are different. You can't look at Julie who was successful in weeks and say "well I'm still not there after my first month so I'm failing and I'm gonna quit"
That's why we quit right?!
...Because we're comparing our results to someone else's! Maybe Julie doesn't have kids! Maybe she has family connections.
Are you getting this?!
Pretending to be like someone else puts you on the wrong track.
You are unique and the world needs that!
Your ideas, talents, aspirations and perspectives are a big treasure and comparing it to others keeps it buried.
So instead of "act as if", ask yourself the question "What would / how would _____?"
If you're going to act as if I were the greatest business woman in the world, what would the greatest business woman in the world do in this situation? How would she behave?
This puts you in the driving seat on your timeline with your best assets.
Big things happen.
You don't feel guilty for investing in yourself each day.
You realize that being selfish is actually not selfish at all.
Your energy, confidence and clarity fill you up so you have plenty to give to others.
The "fake it 'til you make it" advice gets handed out like Halloween candy and it holds you back.
It's BS, don't listen to it! Replace that with "act as if."
When you act as if you're confidence shines and that brings out the behaviors, the attitude, the actions - everything you need to lifelong purpose.